Something I believe in

I believe that everything has a purpose.

Whatever you're going through right now has a purpose. Today, you might be going through something that's pulling you to the ground, but believe that one day, God will give you something to counteract it; one day you will  be (if not on top) on the best state you should be.

I believe something wasn't given to you because you will be given something better.

I believe that you are losing someone now, because you will be meeting someone better.

I believe there is a reason that you are not up now, because someday, in God's time, you will be.

Favorite quote

I'm having a hard time thinking of my favorite quote. Because as far as I remember, I never had a favorite quote. I, actually, like a lot of quotes and they're all categorized by their message, meaning, and topic.

But since it's February already, and it's known as the month of love, I chose this quote from the Holy Bible.

1 Corinthians 13:4-8a

"Love is patient, love is kind and is not jealous; love does not brag and is not arrogant, does not act unbecomingly; it does not seek its own, is not provoked, does not take into account a wrong suffered, does not rejoice in unrighteousness, but rejoices with the truth; bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things. Love never fails."

The best advice you’ve ever heard, or ever been given

Since this question is very timely, I was just given an advice regarding those who have treated me wrongly, said bad - untrue things about me, those who goes against my back. And it sort of went like this:

"They destroy you because they're afraid to accept that you're actually better than them... In the end they will realize that they were fighting for something that would only destroy their selves. Just like the rebels who fight in the remote areas. They stay there fighting for what they 'think' is justice. But in the end they find out that they've got no real friends to back them up from where they fight for their 'justice' - only people who have been using them. Then they come back with regret and sorrow."

I hope you've got the message behind the advice given to me.

What you think when you hear the words “be yourself”

"Be Yourself"

What if the person is aggressive; What if they're quarrelsome; How about those who are too liberated; Even those who don't know how to watch their mouth?

This line can somewhat be taken the wrong way. In my opinion, people with an attitude like the ones mentioned above should learn to regulate theirselves.

I mean, others get their attention by telling them that what their doing isn't nice, that they have to watch their attitude, or tell them to learn when and where to be such; In filipino we say it as, "Ilugar mo naman". Then those people (with the attitude) would answer, "This is who I am", "I'm just being myself".

You can't use this line as an excuse to act immaturely.

Now Hiring: Married Female

I'm bum - as of the moment. And on the process of looking for a job - actually, WAITING for a job. I've applied to some companies already and I've just had my interview last February 1, 2012 (Wednesday). One of the questions asked was, "Do you have any plans of settling down soon" - getting married.

For your curiosity, my answer was, "Not soon, because I want to be able to advance myself in my career before settling down." And I'm lucky to say that that was the answer the interviewee wanted to hear.

I've had a text conversation with one of my friends the night of my interview day. She too was looking for a job. She's older than me, she's married, and she's a mother. It saddened me when she said that she was having a hard time looking for a job because the companies wanted to have employees who are single, younger, and are not supporting any child.

For the sake of those who aren't aware, companies find women who are married as a liability to them because of the benefits they'll have to offer her. For most: married female employee = future pregnancy = 2-3 months maternity leave (Philippines) = recruit part-time substitute = hassle. And I think the formula says it all. It may not apply to all but that's the most general way I could explain it.

And come to think of it, it's really sad. Looking into the situation, these married female looking for a job is the person who would actually need a job. Even more when she's a married female - with kids - looking for a job. Worst, when the applicant is a married female - soon to be annulled - but supporting kid/s, since I'm pretty sure she'd need all the sources to be able to have some income to support herself and the kid/s.

I wish that a solution could be done regarding this so as not be unfair with these applicants. They need all the financial sources they could get. If you're a company mananger/employee/HR member/owner: hope you'd be able to help into bringing up this issue to make a solution. I'm pretty sure doing so would help a lot of families.

If you're a mom, and currently in this kind of situation, my best advice is: be patient and don't give up. I also suggest to start with a business of your own. Just a small business would be ok.

"Wow! Only a True Friend Would be that Truly Honest" - Donkey

That's a line that Donkey said on the first film of the movie Shrek. He said it quick enough for viewers to not grasp the true meaning of the line - too bad. But I've come across a picture of Donkey with this line written on it. It really caught my attention because Shrek was one of my favorite animated movies and I was quite curious because I never remembered Donkey say it during the movie. So that time, I tried to google about that line and I came up with websites giving the dialogues of the movie and this line did exist.

I've also found some discussions regarding this line and a lot of them were quite interesting.

As for me, the essence of this line is very meaningful. I've been through discussions where in people say things they don't like about a person. What hurts is that most of this discussions come between friends. Let's be honest, that most of us don't have the courage to say to an individual what's wrong about them; that what their doing is wrong. And I'm pretty sure that a lot of us have got some insights regarding a friend's opinion which is totally against theirs, but you're to afraid to go against them. Maybe a time occurred that your friend's choice on a piece of clothing, color, hairstyle, and the like seemed unfit but you were too afraid to mention because they might think wrong of your suggestion.

There are a lot of different situations common to these. And  I ask you this question: was there even one time that you were brave enough to tell your friend the truth during particular situations like these? If your answer is none then I think you'll have to think if you're really a friend or your just being a "friend" for the sake of the company/benefits/etc.

Donkey's line is true in the essence that: if you consider a person your friend, you'd be honest enough to tell them about those things even when you know that they might get hurt; even though you know that they might misinterpret it; even if it they might get misled; even if you don't know if they'd take it positively or not. Because only a true friend would be that honest to you - and take note: they're that honest to you because they don't want you to continue doing something that might lead you to the wrong path.

So if you've got a friend who took the courage to tell you something you're doing wrong; to tell you that the outfit your wearing has got something wrong about it; that your hairstyle doesn't suit you; to tell them their opinion which is against yours; maybe some of them didn't go on your side during a fight - please do me a favor and give them a tight hug and say, "Thank You". I'm pretty sure that they've had to go down to the deepest area of their gut just to be able to tell you that and it's all because they care enough to correct you and not let you go on doing the same mistake.

If you think that they've said it in a way that's too offending, I suggest, tell them. For your friendship's sake. Listen to what they have to say. And I hope you'd get the courage to accept that mistake they've mentioned to you. If you think that what you did isn't a mistake explain it well but don't forget to say thank you because, in my opinion, at least they are true enough to call that thing to your attention.

And if your that friend who knows how to have that courage to be truly honest, then take this reminder with  you: always be cautious with your words and know how to approach your friend in a humble manner.

A movie that has changed me, and how

I will never forget the movie 3 idiots. It has influenced me very positively right after I've watched it. This movie was introduced to me by one of our college instructors when we asked her if she could suggest us a good project study. She told us to watch this movie because we need all the inspiration we could get.

I wasn't able to watch it right after because my mind was preoccupied of our project study, academic requirements, organization work, and a lot of social problems. In short, I didn't have ample time to watch a movie

But then, my group mate said that he watched the movie and said that it was really very inspiring and that I should set aside all my worries first and watch it ASAP because it was going to be worth it. Curious as I was, I followed what he said and watched the movie at home, alone, on my laptop.

And there, it was really worth it. The movie was one of the best movies I have ever watched. The story was very clever and interesting and the message was very uplifting and inspiring - most especially for a student like me, that time, who was taking up Mechanical Engineering. After watching the movie, I was pushed even more to have a positive outlook in life, to do better in my studies, to follow my dreams, to value my friendship with my friends, and to not be afraid of what is in store for me.

I highly recommend this movie to everyone. ALL IS WELL!!!